Simple Acts of Kindness

Today while Baby B and I were out, a gal passing me while I unloaded our groceries into our car offered to wheel my cart to the cart corral for me. Wow, what a great gal! I was so thankful for her act of kindness and it made me stop and think….

I was at a super center, so it was a very busy atmosphere. Through out our shopping trip I kept getting cut off by other peoples carts and getting blocked in, etc. I was starting to get a little frustrated. Then at the end of my shopping trip, after I had walked three parking lot aisles looking for my car (I forgot I hadn’t parked in my usual spot), this lady helped me out. Something so simple, but so nice. I didn’t have to take my cart to the cart corral with the babe.

This friendly, kind woman reminded me of a post I saw a few days back, it said something like: “Real queens fix each other’s crowns.” She was a queen. She was there just when I was about to lose my cool and she gave me a helping hand. It made me feel like she had my back. Even though I didn’t have my family with me to help me; I had her, a fellow queen. So if you are out there and struggling through your day mama, we’ve all been there. Even if you are not a mama, you’ve been there and had those days. You are not alone. So if you see someone having one of those days, give them a helping hand. You may never know what kind of impact it may leave.

The strength of our human connection is sometimes underestimated.

We Love Tucson!

We recently had my sister and her husband visit us from Alaska. While they were here we were able to play tourists in our hometown. We had so much fun and it reminded us why we love living here so much! We had beautiful weather and this time of year we have many events to go to that are really unique to our city.

We hit up the Tucson Gem and Mineral Show with our Alaskan visitors.
There are many different showcases that come to town for this annual event and there are many venues to choose from. We have always loved to visit the 22nd Street Mineral & Gem Show. We love this one because it has a lot to offer but is a good size with our little ones in tote. My toddler loves all the dinosaur bones, fossils, and of course all the different rocks!

Our Family at the 22nd Street Mineral and Gem Show with some dinosaur bones behind us!

The 22nd Street showcase is great because its $3 to park and entry is free. We always bring some cash to pick up a few trinkets from our venture which is always fun for my toddler and I am sure Baby B will love it when he gets a little bigger. You can spend a lot of money at these shows if your in the market for some stones to set or a unique piece of jewelry, but we just love to look and see all the different products brought in from around the world. After spending a big part of our afternoon there, we had a great early dinner and walked around downtown to the shops. We ended our adventure with some delicious ice cream from Desert Dream Ice Creamery on 4th Ave. What kinds of things do you love to do in your city that are unique to your area? We would love to hear!

Our trinkets we bought: two dinos carved from stone, a tortoise, and an elephant figurine.

Believe in Me

There is so many reasons why I love J so much, the list grows each day. Something I have noticed lately is he truly, 100% believes I can do anything I set my mind to. This is the man you should marry. The one who sees your potential and doesn’t hesitate to encourage you to follow your dreams.

I wanted very badly to stay home with our baby boys, but I did have a lot of doubts before leaving my career of 11 years. I wondered if we could budget and stick to it (we still have work to do here). We both made good incomes and one of our incomes was enough to live off of but there is a major transition time from going from two incomes to one. When I was still working we could go out to eat all the time and go for quick weekend trips whenever we had the time. That was the thing, we didn’t have as much time together. Now we have time but sometimes we don’t always have the discretionary income to do whatever our hearts desire, which is okay. It’s great to have the extra money, but I wouldn’t trade the time with my boys for the money again. I doubted our abilities to budget, but J never did. He kept telling me when I was trying to make this decision to leave my career that we would make it work. Here we are, 7 months after me leaving my job and we are making it work.

Still, some days I feel like I am failing at being a stay at home mom. The baby has been cranky and crying all day and my toddler has been defiant. Some of those days I just want to cry, some of those days I do cry. J always hugs me and tells me I’m the best mom and that there will be hard days. Sometimes his hugs are all I need to know that it will be okay and tomorrow will be better.

There are two things I always wanted to do but never had the time when I was working. That was to blog and to start my own Etsy shop. Now that baby B is enjoying sitting in his rocker or swing, I feel like my hands are freed up. I was nervous to do both of these things, but J knew I could do it. He always believes in me and that is invaluable to me.

It doesn’t matter the situation, he never loses faith in me and frankly, he believes in me more than I do most of the time. As we get older we definitely change what we value in our relationships. I know now that J always believing in me means he will always believe in us. I can’t tell you how much love that fills my heart with. That is definitely the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.

From Our Wedding Day in Eagle River, Alaska. I was 4 months pregnant with Baby B and it was far too cold for this AZ girl to be wearing that dress, but I did anyway.
Photo Credit: Uros Nikolic

Winding Down With B and Baby B

Have you ever had a weekend fun hangover? When you just had so much fun over the weekend and you don’t want it to end? We had such a blast this weekend. We were able to take a family trip up to the White Mountains and visit J’s son. It was a quick trip. We were all so happy to see each other and be together and that it made it so memorable. We had breakfast together, ran to the store to get mittens for the boys, and Baby B and I watched the big boys (including J) play in the snow. The boys had so much fun playing together, it filled our hearts with joy.

So, today we are just hanging out at home while J is at work. Trying to keep those weekend, feel good vibes going. We are watching cartoons and doing a couple of craft projects. After having a fun, busy weekend its good to wind down and reflect on everything and everyone you have to be thankful for. We aren’t wearing our pajamas all day today, we are dressed (your welcome Papa). We are having a fun, kind of lazy day! I thought I would share some of the craft activities my 3 year old, B, and I have been working on.

Our little craft activities from today from left to right: a valentine’s ceramic paint kit from Dollar Tree, a valentine’s banner from Spritz at Target, and letter beads from Dollar Tree.

Guardian Angels Come in All Sizes

We all have a special connection with all of our children. We all live to care for our littles and shower them with love. Sometimes, even with our best attempt to hide it, we need a little extra love and care when we hit a rough patch in life.

When my ex and I first split I had a really hard time with it. I felt like I didn’t have a reason why we were splitting, but it was obvious it was over. I was depressed. I had never been so overcome with grief in my life. I felt like my future and all the plans I had made for our family just slipped out of my fingers and were gone. But, there was this amazing little boy we had. At the time of the split he had just been 2 for a month, he was so little still Since the split, he has been my shadow and he has taught me so much.

He hugged me and patted me when I was crying on the kitchen floor. He tried to feed me when I wasn’t eating. He showered me with his little love because as much as he needed me, I needed him more. Because of my little guy I was able to pull myself out of that rut and quick. I started to work out and take walks with my dad in the evenings. I started seeing a therapist to help me work through what I was feeling. I started to find new hobbies to fill my time when my son was with his dad. And when I decided to start dating, my little guy helped me there too.

When I met J it all fell into place and things seemed too good to be true. I had felt like I had truly met someone that knew my soul. But, when my son met him that’s when I knew for sure that J was the one. My little guy has always been shy when meeting new people. When he met J, he hugged him and let him carry him the first day. He instantly took to J and that was the stamp of approval I needed. Nobody else’s opinion even mattered anymore.

As I sit here and type this blog, my little angels are right beside me. My eldest in the chair next to me playing and my baby boy in his rocker to my other side. I strive to be the best mama to these little guys that I can be. I will never forget what my first born babe taught me when our lives were changing so much. Sometimes the hardest lessons we learn are taught by the tiniest guardian angels.

Little Treasures

We tend to move through life fast. Caring for an infant, a toddler, and my husband tend to keep me pretty busy. Currently my infant doesn’t want to be put down ever, like not even for 5 minutes. I have decided to just wear him most of the time to at least free up my hands. My toddler is energetic, busy, and always calling for mommy. My husband, I love this man to death, but he can never find the work pants hanging where the work pants are suppose to be hung. (We organized his closet with work clothes and non-work clothes, so this has helped.) We can get so wrapped up in all these little things in life that keep us going non stop.

This is why I love Sundays. The day of the week I know that my hubby will always be home. It’s the day of the week we can take it slow and enjoy each other. My hubby and I can lay in bed and admire these two little perfect boys that through the night ended up in our bed. We can look at these sweet little angels that are off in dream land and sometimes Baby B will smile in his sleep. We can make coffee and breakfast together. We get to run errands on Sunday together or we get to enjoy eating lunch out together. It really doesn’t matter what we do because we are doing it together. We get to appreciate our togetherness and the fun things our boys are learning and doing.

So go ahead and take a day that you ignore that heaping basket of dirty laundry or those dishes from dinner the night before. Take a day you don’t have to do anything, but you get to do things together. Even if its like us and its just fun to go to the grocery store together (and easier with my husband there too). Take in the smiles from your loved ones, the house you’ve made a home, together, and take in all those little treasures.

The Generation Gap and Wearing Pajamas All Day, Every Day

My dad lives with us and we love, absolutely love having Papa in house. Every now and then I find funny little things about living with three generations under one roof. My dad is a baby boomer, a go-getter, and an early riser. I use to be an early riser until I started nursing my newborn again. After we came home from the hospital, some days I was running on zero sleep and my half cup of coffee. I know my dad saw I was struggling the first few weeks of being a mom of two and I think he cut me some slack. He didn’t make one mention of my pajamas all day, every day.

My dad is very passive and I think he really didn’t want to hurt my feelings. Also, he probably knew from having four kids of his own that you should not mess with a mama when she is home with a new baby. I honestly think he thought we were never going to change out of our jams. All three of us. My toddler, my newborn, and me. We started to venture outdoors to play in the yard, in our pajamas. I think this frightened Papa. Maybe the neighbors would see us! Maybe the neighbors would think we had just given up! So after a couple weeks passed, he started to make comments. But not to me, to my toddler. He would say each morning, “Hey why don’t you get up and get showered and get your day going?”. Oh, I may be nursing in my bedroom but I can hear you Papa and maybe, just maybe today we will change out of our jams.

I decided, we will change out of our pajamas! We will change out of our pajamas to go to the grocery store! I have tried really hard since bringing Baby B home to still be presentable in public. Some days its really hard. Baby B spits up constantly, so you can’t put your outfit on until right before you dash out of the house. So, it’s decided we will change out of our pajamas some days but not all days. We won’t completely let you down Papa. We won’t meet you for dinner in our pajamas. We will really try not to run our errands in our pajamas. But…the days we get to snuggle and play all day, we will probably stay in our pajamas all day.